Happy Anniversary! Ten years and counting…

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It’s been 10 years. And all 10 were fast, fun, loving, crazy and inspiring. Hubby and I celebrated our 10 year anniversary, and it was fun to reminisce about how we became “we.”

We met in undergraduate school at the University of Missouri. I had an assignment in one of my journalism classes to visit the other mediums of the craft. Naturally I forgot this until my teacher’s assistant reminded us that we had to turn in our assignments the following day. Thankfully I’d already … Read more ...

Huffington Post: Blogging about my interracial marriage

If you read this blog regularly, you know my Hubby is white. And if you’re new here, hopefully you’ve gotten the clue from my logo that I’m black.

Our wedding day.

We’re an interracial couple with blended boys and we wouldn’t have it any other way. As an interracial pair, we’ve had our random racist experiences, but we’ve also had many positive, enriching ones.

When I read about the couple in Kentucky who “inspired” a ban on mixed race couples, my heart broke for them. … Read more ...

Families By The Numbers: How Does Yours Measure Up?

Do you know how many families are just like yours? We’ve all got aunts who can easily be referred to as the Cat Lady, or uncles and/or cousins who try too embarrassingly hard to be cool.

But how many U.S. households look like yours? Didn’t know if you peeped the graphic in The New York Times recently that gave us a glimpse inside our homes. The link of it is here.

After futzing around, I found that 8.1 million homes are similar to my … Read more ...

Being Brown in the Suburbs: No Burnt Crosses, But A Few Cross Looks

I should have known by the look in his eyes. The middle-aged white man looked at my chocolate self, then to my light-skinned baby and back to me. “Excuse me,” he said walking closer. “But is his father white or Asian?”

The color of us by Erica Lynn Hang.

I paused. Did he just ask me that? Here? In the frozen-food section of the grocery store?

Inhale. Exhale. “He’s white,” I said, feeling my blood rise. Gathering courage to stand my ground for whatever racial … Read more ...